Ho-Ho-Hold Up! How the Holidays Can Spice (or Cool) Your Love Life

December 24, 2024

Ah, the holidays! A time for festive lights, endless shopping, cookie swaps, and decking the halls. But let's be honest—between the stress, travel, and overindulging on eggnog, intimacy with your partner can take a backseat faster than Santa's sleigh on turbo mode. If you’ve noticed the spark in the bedroom dimming like a half-burned-out string of fairy lights, don’t worry—you’re not alone. Let’s unpack how the holidays can mess with your mojo and what you can do to get back to fa-la-la-ing each other.

1. The Stress of "Perfect" Holidays

Nothing kills the mood faster than worrying about cooking a Pinterest-worthy feast or finding the perfect gift for your in-laws. Stress triggers cortisol production, which can dampen your libido quicker than Aunt Karen’s awkward political debates.

The Fix: Schedule "no-pressure" downtime with your partner. Think cozy movie nights with zero expectations, a little mulled wine, and maybe some mistletoe magic.

2. Food Comas are Real (and Unsexy)

Turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, cookies, pie… repeat. While delicious, these carb-heavy feasts can leave you feeling more stuffed than your holiday stockings. And let’s not even talk about the infamous “holiday bloat.”

The Fix: Lighten things up with a steamy bath together (bonus points for adding some CBD-infused bath salts). It’ll relax your body and set the scene for intimacy. And hey, a little post-dessert cardio under the covers never hurt anyone.

3. Travel and "That One Guest Room"

Visiting family during the holidays can mean awkward sleeping arrangements. Creaky beds, paper-thin walls, and the fear of your grandma walking in? Yeah, not exactly an aphrodisiac.

The Fix: Turn travel into a romantic adventure by booking a night in a cozy local hotel just for you two. Think of it as a mini escape—sexy pajamas optional (or not).

4. Overdoing the Holiday Cheer

From spiked punch to champagne toasts, the holidays are drenched in booze. While a glass (or three) can loosen things up, too much can lead to "liquor limbo," where the desire is there, but, uh… the follow-through isn’t.

The Fix: Pace yourself with cocktails and hydrate with water between rounds. And if things still go sideways, laugh it off—intimacy is just as much about connection as it is about, well, performance.

5. Emotional Overload

Holidays come with all the feels—good and bad. Nostalgia, family tension, or even missing loved ones can make it hard to feel “in the mood.” Emotional exhaustion is real, and it can zap your energy for intimacy.

The Fix: Focus on small acts of intimacy like cuddling, holding hands, or sharing a heartfelt conversation. Sometimes, those little moments lay the groundwork for bigger sparks later.

6. What Helps You Feel Naughty (in a Nice Way)

If you’re looking to bring back the bedroom fireworks, here are some tried-and-true tips to keep things merry and oh-so-bright:

Make Time for Each Other: Put intimacy on your holiday to-do list, right between “wrap gifts” and “buy more wine.” A sexy lingerie reveal under the Christmas tree? Yes, please!
Try Something New: A cheeky couples’ game or a luxurious intimate oil (hint hint) can work wonders. (We hear Glissant’s CBD-infused oil makes an excellent stocking stuffer!)
Laugh Together: Nothing bonds people like laughter. Watch a holiday comedy, share embarrassing stories, or just be silly together.
Set Boundaries: It’s okay to say no to a million obligations and yes to your partner instead. Your sanity (and love life) will thank you.

This holiday season, don’t let stress, sugar crashes, or sleeping at your in-laws' house dim your love light. With a little effort and some creative thinking, you can turn up the heat, keep the spark alive, and make sure you’re both saying “Oh, oh, oh!” instead of just “Ho, ho, ho.” Cheers to love, laughter, and a whole lot of intimacy under themistletoe! 🥂🎄